As the title says, how we ended up having fetishes? Is is psychological/physiological/subconscious thing?
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Sometimes it has to do with shame and the freedom of acting in a perceived shameful way. As a kid you are told it is naughty and very bad to look at a woman naked, then as an adult you get a thrill from looking at women naked in part because it is wrong but feels good to do it. Same sort of thing for many fetishes I think. Ever looked at a cousin or family member or teacher or girl next door, police officer, nurse, etc. and thought of having sex with them? Probably. As a guy most women I have come in contact with in my life I have had a sexual thought about. Even if it was gross or weird and I didn’t like it, as guys we think about sex with everyone/thing. Doesn’t mean we actually want that, so sometimes it remains an abstract fetish we only fantasize about. Other times if it is something we feel comfortable and aroused by, we are further aroused by the shamefulness of it. I’m sure it functions in the same way to an extent for women, I just can’t say from personal experience.
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