People suggest this to me, and it would appear the idea has merit, but I just can’t get my head around it not changing the objective reality of what you look like. I’m missing something, perhaps.
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Confidence is a attractive. People who believe they are attractive walk with more confidence in themselves. It’s not the only way to behave more confidently, but it’s one way.
>I just can’t get my head around it not changing the objective reality of what you look like.
There is no objective reality of attractiveness. It’s extremely variable from culture and context and situations.
The exact same person and outfit you might rate them a different level of attractive just depending on their mood the two different times you saw them.
The disconnect is that it does objectively change the way you look.
To use a classic example, consider the character of Superman. Despite being a strong man, he looks very different slouched over a typewriter peering through coke-bottle glasses with his hair slicked compared to his heroic alter-ego.
You can see the same thing if you try playing with your pose and demeanor in front of a mirror. In my case, keeping my head up hardens my chin and gives my eyes enough light to go from looking tired to dreamy. It certainly isn’t an extreme makeover, but it’s worth doing for best results.
It’s because “attractiveness” isn’t just about beauty. We’re attracted to people who would make good partners; it’s a biological thing, for the survival of the species.
So, beauty is an indicator of health; you’re healthy and able to make healthy babies if your face is symmetrical, if you have a fit body, if you don’t have any signs of disease (pimples, hair loss, etc etc.).
But there are other indicators of “being able to raise babies”: if you have a purpose, you look like you’re set on achieving some sort of goal and are confident, if you appear wealthy (well dressed), and if you’re popular (a lot of people are hanging around you).
All of these indicators are also “attractive”; they’re indicators that you’ll be effective as a parent and whoever pairs with you to have babies will have success at having and raising those babies.
“acting” like you’re attractive is merely that. acting. it doesn’t make you attractive at all. it makes you fake. developing confidence is attractive as others have stated here, which isn’t putting on an act. it’s the real thing.
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