When a couple days they are trying for a baby what does that mean? I never understood it. Does it mean they used to not have sex? Is baby sex different from normal sex?
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It means don’t ask them when they’re going to have a baby, because they either don’t want to announce their pregnancy yet, or they spend a few days every month feeling bitterly disappointed that it’s not working.
Regarding the sex part of your question: no contraception.
It means they are having sex without birth control of any type. And having sex regularly to increase chances of pregnancy.
It could also mean they are taking hormones to assist, or doing other things like IVF.
Basically, when having sex you are either:
1 – Trying not to have a baby – just having sex for enjoyment
2 – Not preventing it, but not doing anything to help it along
3 – Or actively trying
It means they are intending on having a baby and have removed any barriers such as contraception. It may also include timing their activities to the woman’s ovulation cycle.
It is the polite way to let people know that they are attempting to get pregnant.
>Is baby sex different from normal sex?
I mean I guess it depends what “normal sex” is to you – “normal” sex for many couples involves actively trying to avoid pregnancy, either thanks to what exactly they do (nobody is going to get pregnant from oral sex, for instance) or using some sort of contraception (eg condom, pill, IUD). But if a penis is ejaculating inside a vagina with no form of contraception, then there’s a decent chance of a pregnancy being the result. Doing that from time to time is the bare minimum of what “trying for a baby” entails. If that doesn’t yield the desired results, then maybe they’ll try to do it more often, time it with ovulation/fertility cycles, etc.
It may mean that traditional methods of getting pregnant aren’t working so “trying” may mean they are seeking medical assistance to achieve pregnancy.
Mmm…currently not on birth control? You know actively NOT avoiding a baby.
It means that they’re doing something different to actively try to conceive.
Any or all of: stopping birth control, having more frequent sex, timing it to the woman’s most fertile time of the month.
“trying” might mean a lot of things.
There are often stages or degrees of “trying”
The most basic level is they simply stop doing whatever they were doing to avoid pregnancy. That may have been condoms, birth control pills, abstinence, the pull out method, or timing sex to avoid the fertility window. They just have sex freely and see what happens.
If they don’t randomly luck into a baby they may move up to activly tracking her cycle and possibly using a thermometer or test strips to find out exactly when she is ovulating, the absolute best time to have sex and possibly get pregnant.
If the more precise trying doesn’t work, they get to move up to talking to doctors. Both partners may get tested to see how fertile they actually are. If their tests look good, they can go back to trying and it’s just luck, if their tests show any issues, there are medical steps to take. Fertility drugs and lifestyle changes to maximize the odds.
If that still isn’t working the couple might be undergoing IVF.
“trying” might mean any of these things and it’s extremely personal which is probably why the term is so broad. You don’t need to know what level they are at unless they want you to know.
Generally, women must be ovulating to get pregnant. On average, there is about six days a month leading up to and during ovulation that pregnancy can occur. Ovulation is calculated based on the date of the woman’s last period. “Trying” means the couple is calculating the ovulation window and concentrating on having a sex during that period.
Usually it means they stopped using birth control. Now they could get pregnant. Before now a pill or condom stopped it.
There are a few things a couple could also do to increase the odds. They might mean any of the following:
1) Timing. Making sure to have sex at the time in the month when they think the woman is most fertile. She typically releases an egg only once a month and can only get pregnant for the few days after that. Sometimes couples pay special attention to make sure there’s sperm around this time.
2) Frequency. They’re having sex more often. It could mean they weren’t having sex at all before but that is rare for modern married couples.
3) Medication. If one of the couple has a medical issue doctors can prescribe something (usually hormones) to make it easier to conceive.
4) Non-sex activity. For example, a man with a low sperm count may change their underwear or stop masturbating so they have more speed when trying to conceive.
5) Positions during and after. Some positions make it a little more likely for the sperm to reach the egg. This is not a big factor for most people but it can have an effect for some people.
6) More active medical. Depending on the individual, there can be more intense medical treatment. IVF for example.
And sometimes people say that to playfully say that they’re having sex a lot. Sometimes people say it to mean “that’s our business leave us alone”.
It’s hard to tell. Just say “good luck” and move on.
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