how forgotten traumas from infancy can have an impact on us as adults.
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Stress shapes how your brain handles any given situation. As humans, we are reinforcement leaners.
If you had a traumatic experience around say, intimacy at a young age, your brain will quite literally rearrange your personality to lower the likelihood of that stressful situation happening again. If that means avoiding or being afraid of intimacy, so be it. Your brain doesn’t know what you actually want socially. It’s just responding to stimulus. If you have repeated trauma around intimacy, then by the time you’re an adult, you’re probably in a situation where you just feel really uncomfortable being intimate, or you just straight up go out of your way to avoid it.
From your brains perspective, it’s done a great job! It’s avoiding potential stressful situations. But in the real world, you are suffering because it’s more difficult to maintain a relationship like this, which makes you depressed.
The thing is, these brain shaping events are happening all the time. They stack on top of each other. It’s how people can have such destructive personalities. Because those personalities have been reinforced over the course of their entire life by one event or another.
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