I read a post somewhere where OP was saying how they had experienced severe bullying as a child and as they progressed with therapy as an adult, their sexual kinks (all revolving around humiliation, degradation and the like) were starting to disappear, and they no longer felt turned on by the subject as they worked through their traumas in therapy.
That got me thinking… I know it’s a defense mechanism to turn pain into an idea of pleasure, but on the surface it just seems so illogical that the mind gets programmed to seek out what has harmed it in the past. Can anyone explain to me how that works/what’s the point of it?
In: Other
I don’t think it’s a coping mechanism so much as it is their low self esteem leaking out. I imagine it’s basically that you feel like garbage but you have to hide it most of the time and just live in society. But in the bedroom you can kind of release those feelings in a safe way with your partner. Its almost like a healthy version of self harm
Latest Answers