How/why does the mind cope with trauma by eroticizing it and developing kinks around the subject?

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I read a post somewhere where OP was saying how they had experienced severe bullying as a child and as they progressed with therapy as an adult, their sexual kinks (all revolving around humiliation, degradation and the like) were starting to disappear, and they no longer felt turned on by the subject as they worked through their traumas in therapy.

That got me thinking… I know it’s a defense mechanism to turn pain into an idea of pleasure, but on the surface it just seems so illogical that the mind gets programmed to seek out what has harmed it in the past. Can anyone explain to me how that works/what’s the point of it?

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If there’s medecine I have to take that I don’t like, then a spoonful of sugar helps me make it less unbearable. Your brain is essentially doing this.

Your brain can’t handle the bad thing that keeps happening to it, so it mixes it with a small amount of a good thing to prevent the bad thing from hurting so much.

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