I read a post somewhere where OP was saying how they had experienced severe bullying as a child and as they progressed with therapy as an adult, their sexual kinks (all revolving around humiliation, degradation and the like) were starting to disappear, and they no longer felt turned on by the subject as they worked through their traumas in therapy.
That got me thinking… I know it’s a defense mechanism to turn pain into an idea of pleasure, but on the surface it just seems so illogical that the mind gets programmed to seek out what has harmed it in the past. Can anyone explain to me how that works/what’s the point of it?
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I assume it’s part of control. You can control a consensual sexual interaction with someone (or in your mind), it’s something you’re choosing, you feel safe/comfortable with the person, and it’s most importantly Not Real. When you experience trauma, obviously, you can’t control your situation. It’s something you Don’t Want, so your mind turns the Bad Thing, into something you Do Want. And for a lot of humans, the only way to “want” a scenario (something that isn’t an object that you can want physically), is to make it sexual.
That’s my thoughts on it anyway. I’m not a doctor. or a therapist. or scientist. or psychologist.
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