A lil context.
I am an introverted aspie with an extroverted charmer of a friend. He does things in social settings that never ceases to amaze me.
So i ask him about it often, but he always answers with, “You just gotta learn the social game.” I’m confused.
Is such a thing actually real?
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Well, what counts as a ‘ real game ‘ I’m an aspie who needed to learn social situations, and a game is a great way to put it. Much like in a game there are seemingly arbitrary rules you need to follow, strategies you can apply and style of play people who’ve gotten good at the game prefer and fall into.
I don’t actually think being on the spectrum makes the game any harder, instead we just need to ensure the strategy we pick matches our strengths while we work on our weaknesses and unlock other strategies.
Does everyone think of it as a game? No, and it’s probably not a good idea to talk to people who lack context about ” the game of interacting with people” as they could misinterpret it as “I view interacting with people as a game and don’t care about their feelings”. That said viewing it as a game can be very helpful, much like any game it requires practice to get good at, a lot of people feel like their social ability is predetermined and they’re destined to forever be socially awkward. But that isn’t true. Just like any game, learn the rules ( even if they seem dumb and unessersary), pick a strategy and practice.
It’s worth noting that you don’t have to play the game all the time. Extraverted people tend to find the game relaxing, more introverted people tend to get tired when they play it for too long. This doesn’t mean they don’t like the game it’s just they need to take breaks and it can be nice to have people around who don’t care if you’re bad at the game from time to time.
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