i thought that it’s lonlyness but what is it exactly???
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A person with autism has difficulty relating to others, at their most basic level. It’s not “hard,” it’s something that person can’t do like the “typical” poplulation.
Maybe the person can’t talk at all, or maybe they can only talk about airplanes and airplane parts. This makes it almost impossible to make friends, or talk about big things like marriage and kids.
Typical person: so do you want 2 or 3 kids?
Person with autism MIGHT respond: in 1872, pilots were not allowed to have children. So pilots of airplane xyz carried baby dolls and pretended they were children. They sometimes carried up to 5 baby dolls!
The person is TRYING to connect, but completely missing the mark.
People with autism can learn “rules” to connect with others. I.e. when someone says hi, I should say hi back. However, there are many conversations that you can’t just “learn the rules,” like how to make friends, or how to ask someone out. Or, if someone can learn how to have these conversations, they still might not be able to understand at all when a friend says, “my dad hit me. I’m scared to go home, I don’t know what to do.” Uh oh! Now the person with autism might not know how to feel empathy for their friend, or how to problem solve for their friend. They might give useless information, or not say anything, or not notice that their friend is really scared.
Everyone who has autism is different, so some people with autism COULD see their friend is hurting, and offer some good advice. But it might be really hard to share hobbies, or talk about the future, etc. but the fundamental issue is, somewhere the person does not have the tools and/or language to connect to others naturally.
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