What is the difference between [person] and I, and me and [person]?

Question

I have struggled with this quite a bit, even as someone pretty advanced in English. It’s been explained to me many times, but nothing is making sense.

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Answer 1

So many people still screw this up!

You use “[person] and I” when they are the subject, you use “[person] and me” when they are the object. You would never use “me and [person].”

The best way to figure it out is to remove the other person and see what sounds right…

“Tom and I are going to the movies” NOT “Tom and me are going the movies” because you’d say “I am going to the movies” not “Me am going to the movies”

However, you would say “Would you like to come to the movies with Tom and me?” NOT “Would you like to come to the movies with Tom and I?” Because you wouldn’t ask “Would you like to come to the movies with I?”

And I’s is never, never, never a correct possessive! The word is My…