What is the psychology behind not wanting to perform a task after someone tells you to do it, even if you were going to do it anyways?
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Pathological demand avoidance, I have a nervous system that behaves like this
It stems from feeling like we are losing our autonomy. For me it happens because all through my life I lost my autonomy because my parents were severely abusive. I am audhd and need autonomy to meet my needs.
When given a demand my nervous system goes into fight/flight because being demanded is a threat to my autonomy.
In response to other comments: real pathological demand avoidance is not performance or anxiety based, nor is it because growing up I had better results going against what I was told (I was an obedient bitch).
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