What is the psycological term ‘Love Bombing’?
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Also known as BFE (boyfriend experience). It’s where a person tricks you into thinking they’re falling in love with you, then dumps you. I first became aware of love bombing in 1990 from the sitcom Designing Women. The “Donald Banks Treatment.” It’s a handsome guy in his 30’s who’s mysteriously still single. You have a few amazing dates, then he disappears. Then you find out later they’re a “love bomber.” Over and over again they trick a new person into falling in love, then they ghost or ditch because their kink was the trick. The hunt is all they’re after, and they love bomb to create their satisfaction from your ultimate embarrassment.
Giving someone LOADS of compliments and affection, then withdrawing it all and paying them none.
It’s basically keeping someone on a hook while you decide if you’re interested.
Very short answer, excessive gifts and flattery in hopes the recipient will confuse it for actual love. “I’ll treat you like a queen!” Like slathering on cologne to cover up your terrible hygiene, but for relationships.
I dropped a deuce into my favorite toliet, does that count?
Positive attention for the purpose of control, provide positive emotional stimulation, friend ship. affection, to reinforce a set of behaviors, act in one way “You go girl”, “Oh I loooove it”, “You’re so special” act in another “Ummm no that’s wrong”, “How COULD you”, or they just ignore you until you act in the “correct” manner. Often used by cults and cult like ideologies.
In my experience it’s just a way to get someones guard down. They make you feel that they are SO into you and they want something serious, but in reality they just want to feel the high of actually being loved and wanted. They want to be seen in a certain light, and often times they are the total opposite of the person you think they are.
My lesson learned from this….actions speak louder than words. They can say all kinds of bullshit to you but unless they are actually behaving and acting on those words then be careful with your emotions.
“love bombing” is what cults use to get you to join.
Everyone shows you “love” and makes you feel good while hiding the actual Cult that only appears after you have signed over you life to them.
Love bombing is what Narcissist typically do in order to win you back after they fruck with your head. Yes, other people do it too, but they are often sincere even if only for the moment.
For the narcissist, this is but one tool in their arsenal of fakery.
When someone sends you affection to control you.
Example: You get in an argument with your mother. You state that you need some space from said mother. Now all of a sudden, you’re getting compliments, love, praise, etc out of nowhere even though this behavior is not common.
The intention of the treatment is to make you forget all the bad things that are going on so you relate them with positivity and like them again. They want to control you.
Dr. Carter on [love bombing](https://youtu.be/vKEjiyDivcc).
Dr. Ramanj on [love bombing](https://youtu.be/WhILcuoVhgE).
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