Let’s say you and your friends build a tree house. You all contribute to building and maintaining it, so you all write a piece of paper that says:
* Every friend in the group can enter the tree house
* Every friend can leave the group if they want to
* Every friend has equal right to make decisions about the tree house, the group, and this rules document
Now, you find that after your friend Hannah started dating this drug dealer Victor, Hannah has been nothing but trouble, and she leaves needles and broken bottles in the treehouse.
Can you kick out Hannah without breaking your own rules? Your rules say nothing about kicking anyone out, and your rules say that Hannah has a right to the tree house.
You could try to make changes to the rules, but your rules also say that Hannah also has a right to decisions about the rules, so adding a rule to be able to vote out members would likely be blocked by Hannah.
You can try to kick her out anyways, but what does that communicate to the rest of the group? It tells them that they cannot rely on the rules being followed and they might fear that they are next to be kicked out. Then they might decide to leave the tree house and not put any more money or effort into it.
So you hope that maybe she’ll leave Victor some day, or maybe Victor dies soon, and Hannah will be her old self again. In the meantime you try to clean up after her as good as possible.
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