We are a highly-intelligent species and yet we are often not able to resolve or often even recognize the stuff going on in our own heads. Why is that?
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My mom is a big Christmas person. Like $1000 on gifts for people every year. I asked her why she doesn’t spend more like $100-200 on gifts (still excessive imo) and keep $800-900 to spend on herself. She said because she’d feel selfish and guilty. I then asked her if I told her I had $1000, and said I was only gonna spend $200 on gifts because I wanted to spend the $800 on myself, would she see me as selfish and want me to feel guilty?
She said no, you earned it.
Sorry for the paragraph, just wanted to show that people can tend to be unnecessarily mean to themselves even though when they see the same thing in another person they show kindness. We have to learn how to be kind to ourselves, which is hard. As other redditors have said here, we know everything about ourselves, so it’s easy to dismiss the idea that you deserve kindness by saying “Yeah well, if they knew THIS about me, then they wouldn’t think I deserve anything!”
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