Why do men lose interest in the sexual activities or anything arousal in general extremely quickly after having an orgasm? How does function of being horny work? How are genitals connected to our decision making capabilities? Why sexual release can change things this fast and this drastically?
It would be funny if I find out I am the only one,
but I assume I am not since all the gags and posts about “post nut clarity” or finding the “content” you are watching becoming unbearable right after you come.
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It’s not 100% concrete fact but one logical explanation describes it chemically; in short-term relationships (interpreted by the speaker in the tedtalk on the subject: as examples in which a male has not conciously commited to the relationship) there is observed in males a relatively significant drop in a chemical called Oxytocin immediately after orgasm.
– look up : How Your Brain Falls In Love | Dawn Maslar | TEDxBocaRaton
Devils advocate: “I think the criticism here is that the chemistry was observed on vole-rats or w/e not humans.”
Outside of chemistry, (I think it was in a book called “The Technology of Orgasm”, although it may have been “She Comes First: The Thinking Man’s Guide to Pleasuring a Woman”, …been a while since I’ve read them tbf) in which the laughable* biological incompatibilities between the sexual organs of men and women are explored:
**yet creationists cite “intelligent design”*
**Men** – physically quick to arousal (get hard faster etc.) and experience a “refractory period” (lethargy / hiatus in arousal) post climax;
**Women** – slower to arousal (not talking about simple “wet”, you’ll notice a kind of pocket or expansion develop inside the vagina like an invisible apple or w/e when highly aroused) & that takes much longer while combined with a more gradual reduction in arousal.
**expanding on this incompatibility: men proverbially rolling over and going to sleep post sex seeming highly insensitive to a still-coming-down sexually-charged woman ::
Finally there’s the actual concentration of nerve endings not corelating with fucking Freud claim that “the only mature orgasm is through Penetration”.
(*IE: Women’s highest concentration of nerve endings doesn’t exactly line up with a no-foreplay game plan.*)
*ps. edit/clarity/typos & Sorry I’m kind of butchering the explanations.*
Point is there are some really good resources out there. Do some reading / watch some podcasts.
At least we’re no longer diagnosing women with “hysteria”, with doctors administering “medically induced orgasms” (the birthplace of the vibrators) anymore as the cure.
Do some reading/ w.e. but Don’t be in your head with all this technical stuff. More important to just be present and pay attention to all the details unique to the person you’re sharing the experience with.. Their unique scent, taste, ..how they sound as they react to different stimulation.. all information that only a select few people (now including yourself) come to know.
Annnnndd intimacy doesn’t even have to be sexual. You can share an evening with a person you care about and the experience can be very intimate to each of you, without clothes even having come off.
/rantoff.
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