Why do men lose interest in the sexual activities or anything arousal in general extremely quickly after having an orgasm? How does function of being horny work? How are genitals connected to our decision making capabilities? Why sexual release can change things this fast and this drastically?
It would be funny if I find out I am the only one,
but I assume I am not since all the gags and posts about “post nut clarity” or finding the “content” you are watching becoming unbearable right after you come.
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are you still hungry after you eat?
do you have to poop after you’ve pooped?
do you have to sleep after you’ve slept?
Imagine being hungry. Now imagine eating a meal that completely satisfies your hunger. Now imagine someone asks if you would like to eat another meal.
That’s what is happening. You got what you needed, now it’s time for other things for a little bit.
Depends on the chemistry between the two. To me if I’m really attracted to the female, I can go all day/night with multiple orgasms.
It’s not 100% concrete fact but one logical explanation describes it chemically; in short-term relationships (interpreted by the speaker in the tedtalk on the subject: as examples in which a male has not conciously commited to the relationship) there is observed in males a relatively significant drop in a chemical called Oxytocin immediately after orgasm.
– look up : How Your Brain Falls In Love | Dawn Maslar | TEDxBocaRaton
Devils advocate: “I think the criticism here is that the chemistry was observed on vole-rats or w/e not humans.”
Outside of chemistry, (I think it was in a book called “The Technology of Orgasm”, although it may have been “She Comes First: The Thinking Man’s Guide to Pleasuring a Woman”, …been a while since I’ve read them tbf) in which the laughable* biological incompatibilities between the sexual organs of men and women are explored:
**yet creationists cite “intelligent design”*
**Men** – physically quick to arousal (get hard faster etc.) and experience a “refractory period” (lethargy / hiatus in arousal) post climax;
**Women** – slower to arousal (not talking about simple “wet”, you’ll notice a kind of pocket or expansion develop inside the vagina like an invisible apple or w/e when highly aroused) & that takes much longer while combined with a more gradual reduction in arousal.
**expanding on this incompatibility: men proverbially rolling over and going to sleep post sex seeming highly insensitive to a still-coming-down sexually-charged woman ::
Finally there’s the actual concentration of nerve endings not corelating with fucking Freud claim that “the only mature orgasm is through Penetration”.
(*IE: Women’s highest concentration of nerve endings doesn’t exactly line up with a no-foreplay game plan.*)
*ps. edit/clarity/typos & Sorry I’m kind of butchering the explanations.*
Point is there are some really good resources out there. Do some reading / watch some podcasts.
At least we’re no longer diagnosing women with “hysteria”, with doctors administering “medically induced orgasms” (the birthplace of the vibrators) anymore as the cure.
Do some reading/ w.e. but Don’t be in your head with all this technical stuff. More important to just be present and pay attention to all the details unique to the person you’re sharing the experience with.. Their unique scent, taste, ..how they sound as they react to different stimulation.. all information that only a select few people (now including yourself) come to know.
Annnnndd intimacy doesn’t even have to be sexual. You can share an evening with a person you care about and the experience can be very intimate to each of you, without clothes even having come off.
/rantoff.
I believe it also has to do with increased levels of prostaglandins from orgasm that affects sexual arousal and plays a huge part in the refractory period.
Im still horny after i ejaculate explain that internet. Am i built different?
Strangely enough, this doesn’t happen to (hormone taking) trans women. The estrogen in our blood gives us lesbian superpowers of endurance!
Exhaustion y’all they can’t keep going even though the desire is there, they need a minute to get the flesh back in the game. I’m a woman so I’m always ready for round 2. But men repeatedly have told me it’s like running a marathon. They’re hungry, thirsty, tired. They definitely want more but it’s impossible to do much but hang onto us and hope we’re up for round 2 when they recover.
For me personally, the pelvic muscle is exhausted and becomes harder to maintain an erection. Sometimes, my mind still wants more and sometimes, the girl can also get it up again, but it’s only for a brief moment before I lose my boner.
Along with that, I think it’s because we already received that dopamine hit and don’t need or crave for more.
Trust me, it is not like that for everyone all the time, sometime you want to rub another one out.
I guess one way to think about it is:
Orgasm and the feeling of pleasure when approaching an orgasm/ejaculation has the evolutionary purpose of ejecting seed, so after you came, the pleasure is imediatly dampened, there is no further benefit since all of it is ejected.
(If it wouldn’t, a man, who’s sexual arousal on average is more prominent than a woman’s would probably do nothing else otherwise.
Additionally the missing refractory period in women is evultionarily beneficial because there could be more mating partners or maybe even because the contractions of an orgasm are beneficial in transporting semen into the uterus.
This is described by the term “Upsuck”. Although in Pigs “upsuck” is indeed a thing, meaning an orgasming pig will to some degree suck semen into its uterus. It has scientifically disregarded in Human females. )
So because this refractory period exist and the pleasure subsides, It is also logical that the feeling of horniness usually subsides once you cannot feel pleasure or cum anymore at that time. Just like it would be frustrating to still feel hungry when your Stomach is already full/ or you’d feel like shitting if your bowels are already empty.
In some cases However, just like there could be an hunger that is bigger than your stomach, the feeling of horniness can surpass this mechanism.
But on another level: yes, it feels weird that there is an immediate psychological effect, but I guess the same idea goes for an intravenous injection of (I guess it was adrenaline) There is a chemical that controls our decision making and perception.
The instant fear chemical, Haha.
Well in the case of horniness and orgasm, the feeling of horniness is both initiated – and after orgasm supressed after orgasm, until theoretically the sperm reservoir is again full enough.
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