Why do men lose interest in the sexual activities or anything arousal in general extremely quickly after having an orgasm? How does function of being horny work? How are genitals connected to our decision making capabilities? Why sexual release can change things this fast and this drastically?
It would be funny if I find out I am the only one,
but I assume I am not since all the gags and posts about “post nut clarity” or finding the “content” you are watching becoming unbearable right after you come.
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If you are referring to getting soft, its a hormone that gets released that takes a variable amount of time to go away. Typically 5 minutes.
If you are talking about losing i trest in sex, im sorry to say you have had shitty partners as I dont want to stop after cuming. Usually use other tactics till im up and ready again.
Prolactin! The body floods with a hormone that specifically turns off arousal. Sex is a time of weakness, you are distracted and spend a ton of resources on reproduction. Now you are done and it is time to avoid predators and rivals again.
Also what does it mean that some men can just keep on going and sometimes even cum multiple times? My bf is like this, we are in our 30’s… never encountered anything quite like it tbh. Is he an alien????
I think about this from a different evolutionary perspective. With evolution traits don’t have to be beneficial to get passed down they just have to be non-detrimental. I think that having a sex drive after ejaculation is detrimental to the chance of the offspring being born. We see in other species that nature doesn’t actually give a shit if the male dies after sex (in many species males are disposable). Further, evolution doesn’t give a shit about parents – only offspring, which is why dying in childbirth hasn’t been evolutioned out. I think it’s more about a high sex drive after ejaculation being detrimental to the female. Sex is inherently dangerous for females. Pre-antibiotics you’d get a UTI and either your body would clear it or you get a kidney infection and you die. If men could keep going after ejaculation they would literally fuck human women out of existence. It’s also why I think men get sleepy after sex (gives the woman a chance to escape). Sure all of the care hormones make it more likely that the offspring will survive but humans are social creatures and could get that from other people. Females don’t necessarily need their mating partner because they don’t stay in their nuclear family – they rely on a larger social group to survive.
In short, males can’t keep going at it because otherwise their offspring wouldn’t make it.
It’s a mix of hormones (endorphins, prolactin, oxytocin etc.) that activates the refractory period, in which sexual stimulation does not create pleasure, the penis becomes very sensitive and it’s very hard to maintain an erection. We don’t really know why the refractory period happens, some say it’s for evolutionnary purposes (giving time for the sperm to get to the egg), but we’re still not entirely sure.
One fun fact: you can actually separate the orgasm from the ejaculation and make it so you have no refractory period and can have multiple orgasms in a row.
I think the honest answer here is just that being “horny” is our way of seeking out a way to spread the seed.. once the job is done (regardless of our partners satisfaction level) we lose interest pretty fast.. If I ever keep going afterwards, it’s 200% for her to get hers.. i have lost all interest as soon as I nutted and just doing more so she is satisfied as well (mainly so i don’t have to hear her complain later, not becuase i want her to get hers, i’m way more worried about complaints and all that, than i am orgasm satisfactions). But i only feel like sex like once a month or every other month at most.. so i tend to make sure we both get it so it’s fair.
Same for most girl ? Cuz its done, we came.
You aren’t alone, but you a rne’t everyone either, nobody ever is. Decide the best way the you-you-are fits into life together.
Honest answer, it’s not that we lose interest, but for me, once my clips empty, my weapon is holstered as it is no longer useful
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