why is there a disconnect between what we’re trying to say vs what actually comes out of our mouth. Especially when public speaking

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why is there a disconnect between what we’re trying to say vs what actually comes out of our mouth. Especially when public speaking

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Probably because we don’t think about what we say. Like if you move your hand and you look somewhere else and keep doing the motion and vere off in the middle of it. You get distracted.
Similarly I assume your mind just already jumps to the next sentence or some distraction and you miss a few words or veer off with your words.

Only guessing, but i would say that we think about what we want so say and not how we say it. We dthink about the message, not the words…

ELI5 answer: Your mouth sometimes moves faster than your brain.

You’ve heard grownups say “Think before you speak,” this is what they’re talking about. We all at times find that our habits of speech can get ahead of what we intend to say. So much of language and communication is instinctual, rather than intentional. Like chewing loudly or cracking knuckles, oftentimes what we say and how we say it comes out without us even realizing it.

The best speakers—public or just in a one-on-one conversation—aren’t people with faster brains, they’re just very practiced at thinking before speaking.