A friend of mine was recently diagnosed with adhd and I’m having a hard time understanding how it works, being a child of the 80s/90s it was always just explained in a very simplified manner and as just kind of an auxiliary problem. Thank you in advance.
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I’ve got diagnosed with add after I graduated from my Uni. I’m 31 now. Didn’t want to do it earlier because I feared people would just think I do it for the pills to pass exams. A good friend of mine recognised the symptoms and shared his ritalin. Passed with magnum cum laude.
If you’re diagnosed as an adult, you probably always had it. For me, it’s a maelstrom in my head, best illustrated if you take a neurtypical brain, they would play “Call me maybe” the original song, while [I would have this playing.](https://youtu.be/PFpeTEVuKzM). I procrastinate boring tasks. I look for random stuff to keep me occupied while I should be working (millions of unfinished hobbies and projects), resulting in having to crunch deadlines and having anxiety. I’d like to think it makes me stress resilient, but that’s a lie I tell myself, cause my stress will leak out and affect relationships.
Speaking about affecting relationships, if find it difficult to keep in touch with everyone, it’s just so much work, until you get emotional and hyperfocus and try to make plans, and you know how that goes.
Taking ritalin makes me really blunt and impatient with people, and hyperfocus it gives can make me seem distant. My SO doesn’t like when I take it, so I try not to take it over the weekend. But then I’d procrastinate on chores, which again stresses the relationship. Can’t believe she stuck with me for 10 years already.
As a tip I can give you, small victories man. Don’t do something tomorrow if you can do it today (I know this sounds like saying “be happy” to a depressed person) but chopped into small tasklets, the progress itself will give you enough dopamine to reinforce that behaviour. Anyways, back to work I’ve been procrastinating.
EDIT: I also can’t relax. Like some people can go sunbathing, and just lie there and get roasted by UV. I’m unable to do that. Well, maybe 5 minutes. But lemme check what the beach bar has on the menu. Hey they sell fishing gear over there!
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