I’ve grown up without my dad. I feel like this makes me even more inexperienced and scared with teenage boys. I’m awkward and nervous but maybe this is just teen symptoms, could you give me advice on how to talk to them?
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be approachable to people. most guys don’t feel comfortable talking to other girls is cuz they feel it’s not the right time or they might feel a little embarassed
Just say Hi whenever you get an opportunity to talk and get comfortable with silence. Also, complimenting guys stays a long time with them.
The short answer is to remember that EVERYONE is anxious and self-conscious at 14 but it expresses differently for everyone. Some of the most outgoing people can be the most self-conscious. Find out what they’re interested in and ask them questions about themselves. Everyone likes to talk about themselves. Also remember that boys mature much slower than girls. Done be afraid to set boundaries but neither be afraid to get out of your comfort zone. Maybe start by talking to someone you share a class with. And remember people can act differently around their friends or any kind of perceived audience.
Make the first move. We guys are too scared to break the silence. We just chicken out when a hot girl we like tries to talk with us.
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Like brown bears, teenage boys are more scared of you than you are of them. What you want to get out of talking to one changes how you talk to them. If you just want to talk about whatever teenagers talk about today, talk to them in a group. If you talk to a teenage guy one on one out of nowhere they are going to think you’re into them. If you want to have an awkward teen romance with a teenage guy you’ll want to talk to them one on one and tell them directly, if they are confused or don’t seem to understand what you’re talking about then you’re not being direct enough. If you never have a chance to talk them alone, go up to them and tell them you want to ask them something away from the group. Don’t get somebody else to do it for you.
If you school folk still do lunch in cafeterias without assigned seating find a group of 3-4 people and ask to join them. You’ll be surprised how many people will say yes if you just ask. If there’s just 2 people you’ll have to determine if it’s a good idea to ask to join them. A guy and a girl making kissy faces at each other don’t want another partner. If there’s anybody sitting alone tell them you saw them sitting alone and ask if they want to group up with anybody else with you. If it’s a guy you like sitting alone then there’s your chance to talk to him.
It will be hard for you because you won’t know what type of boy you’re into. The first man a girl falls in love with is her dad. That’s not in the creepy sense. A girls dad is her experience of what a boy is. They usually tend to fall in love with someone like their dad because that’s the first boy they loved. You not having one in your life will leave you without that experience so you will feel lost. Sometimes that’s a good thing if the dad is a piece of shit because that will be your experience of boys.
Just be yourself, that’s my advice to everybody, boy or girl. If you’re not yourself then how can the other person know if they like you? They could like the person you’re trying to be and that’s not you.
Trust me, I’m a 45 year old dad to 4 kids, 3 of them daughters. My eldest who is 20 has fallen in love with someone that personality wise, is just me.
Be yourself and if it don’t work then it isn’t meant too, just try again till it does.
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