its so confusing to me, its like an actual visual issue or is it just psychological. and can you naturally develop out it out of nowhere or does it come with trauma/eating disorders or other mental illnesses
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It’s two fold. Evaluation and comparison. You have to have both and they are happening all the time. You constantly under estimate or misrepresent your personal evaluation, and at the same time, you are unable to make an accurate comparison between yourself and others who have attributes you are trying to emulate. You will take these comparisons down to individual components rather than approaching it as a whole. You will also forget other factors like genetics or age as contributing factors in your flawed evaluations.
For me it was working out/getting bigger/size. I wouldn’t say, “That guy is bigger than me.”. I would say, “His arms are bigger than mine.” In spite of having a nearly 19″ bicep, I still felt small. Even comparing to close friends who also worked out, I could literally take out a tape, measure us both, and it still didn’t click. Fortunately for me it wasn’t an entirely negative comparison I was trying to make. For some, it becomes a matter of life and death, the never skinny enough mentality. It all stems from those two things however. A flawed self appraisal, and a flawed comparison to others, even in the face of data. Scales and tape measures don’t matter.
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