I noticed as I grew older people who had previously seemed attractive to me now look really young and now I notice attractiveness in people in the age group that would have prevously percieved as old. How does my brain make this shift?
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Maybe you are maturing? You might find that younger girls you can’t relate with, while older people you can. Sometimes the mind can do funny things like that. Even girls who are prettier might seem unattractive if you think they are annoying and immature
It’s like those women who were young and are now in their forties. They were hurt by confident or cocky guys, but were attracted to them when they were young. These overconfident guys hurt them over and over again. Young and dumb unfortunately, like most people that age. Then these women grew older and now despise confident men even if they are good looking. They might then go for the nice guys who have some sense of chivalry, weakness, or appear to be a gentleman (or actually are one)
At one point the good looking and confident guys who were sociable were liked by them, now they see all young guys as being overconfident and mean, generalizing a group of people. And yes, I have seen older women judge perfectly nice guys who were outgoing and confident based on nothing but appearance and the very first impression of what they could be like
Older guys in contrast are more mellow and less wild than they used to be. So the older guys lose that confident edge they used to have, and seem like the right type of person for them
This generalization goes for guys who judge every good looking and fit and attractive girl as promiscuous and home wreckers because they were hurt by these girls, and a lot of other types of stereotypes. People are often a product of their past experiences
When you mature you see people as different, relate to people differently, and may carry some past experiences that might be bad or incorrect. Obviously not everyone this will apply to, but you would be surprised how many people get hurt in relationships- and that changes their perspective on things
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