the difference between being shy, introvert, antisocial, asocial and having social anxiety
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I am a very un-shy introvert. One of those people about whom people say, “You? Uh-uh, no way,” when I say I’m introverted.
For me, introversion looks like this: While I have no problem socializing, going to parties, speaking in front of large groups of people, and generally being gregarious, I am not energized by any of those things, but rather, drained. While I enjoy the social stuff, I find myself craving quiet and solitude following social interactions of that type. If I don’t get it, I will remain drained and begin to avoid socializing until I am able to “recharge.” Some people may be emotionally “flying high” after a big party with lots of friends, and already thinking ahead to when they will go to another one (my extroverted husband!), whereas I will require a few days of hermit-like downtime before another party sounds even remotely appealing – even though I had a great time and really enjoyed it.
I feel happiest and most at peace when engaged in quiet pursuits (reading, writing, art, watching a movie at home, chatting with a very small group of close friends, walking the dog), rather than more social pursuits. I am my best self when I have ample time to be alone regularly.
I’m only rarely bored when left alone. I only said “rarely” because it seems extreme to say “never,” but I really meant never. I cannot remember a time ever in my life when I was bored by myself or doing my own thing. I find other people and socializing with other people boring on the reg, though 😉
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