I’ve tried researching it and many explanations seem to be emotionally charged, judgmental, and non-factual. “They’re so evil and manipulative!” Okay, but can you actually describe what it is?
The the factual, non-biased explanations show what’s in the DSM-5, but it’s kind of vague. What exactly is it? What might people with BPD do to avoid abandonment? Etc.
Edit: Just wanted to thank everyone for their reply. Everyone has brought something of value and an interesting perspective.
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Have you seen the show ‘Crazy ex-girlfriend’?
That’s a very good portrayal.
this isn’t really an answer and it’ll get drowned out in the wave of actual answers, but thank you for asking about what it really is.
i have bpd. i have had friends who have done what you did, just googled it, and not knowing i had it, told me about how everyone with it is evil and manipulative and you should cut them out of your life immediately.
when i started dating my now husband, i told him that i had it and begged him not to google it.
it means a lot that you’d try to find out what it’s like, especially since there’s a good chance you’d get answers from real people who have it and can explain, since it seems the majority of the internet’s opinions are from people who have been hurt. they’re entitled to their feelings just as much as anyone else, but if you only ask people who hate, you’ll only ever learn to hate.
and anyone worried if they have it, please go and see a doctor. the amount of control you gain just by getting a diagnosis is the main thing that has helped me be able to progress.
Side note, many mental health professionals won’t diagnose BPD. It can be counterproductive in getting the patient to seek treatment.
OP I would strongly advise you to just take heed of the top comment, BPD is one of the most misunderstood ailments on the internet!
When people ask me what BPD feels like, I tell them it’s like bipolar on speed. I can go from manic to depressive to manic again all in a span of 10 minutes. I’ve learned to control it since I was diagnosed though (diagnosis helps with dealing with it).
A psychiatrist once explained BPD to me as essentially a disorder in which the patient lacks a coherent sense of self.
It’s this sense of emptiness that leads to them seeking intense relationships, manipulating people for attention, catastrophizing any minor setback, etc
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