I’ve tried researching it and many explanations seem to be emotionally charged, judgmental, and non-factual. “They’re so evil and manipulative!” Okay, but can you actually describe what it is?
The the factual, non-biased explanations show what’s in the DSM-5, but it’s kind of vague. What exactly is it? What might people with BPD do to avoid abandonment? Etc.
Edit: Just wanted to thank everyone for their reply. Everyone has brought something of value and an interesting perspective.
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For normal people they seem manipulative and abusive because not even the person with BPD knows what they really want. Distorted emotions takes the best of them. Since to them they feel like they are the ones being manipulated and they go down the wrong thought loop which leads them to do the wrong thing or make the wrong decision.
This may seem out of control to the other person because all of this is imaginary.
Also Borderline personalities have had issues growing up. Abusive childhood that leads them to develop such personalities.
Completely serious, if you have time watch “Crazy Ex-Girlfriend” through all the seasons to watch Rebecca’s journey to her diagnosis. Bonus, it’s hilarious and heartfelt.
Best book title ever (imho) is about borderline. “I hate you; don’t leave me.” Perfectly sums this disorder up.
I worked in mental health years ago and there seems to also be a difference between genders for borderline personality disorder. I may be incorrect but since I am a female, most of my female patients i worked with this diagnosis were consistently on suicide watch (why I mentioned being a female bc this includes arms distance at all times including bathroom and shower)
Emotion dysregulation, interpersonal issues, and sometimes self harming behavior usually linked to early trauma or emotional neglect. Also a heavily pathologizing wastebasket diagnosis for mental health workers who dislike their patients.
The definition on the NIMH website isn’t vague at all:
People with borderline personality disorder may experience mood swings and display uncertainty about how they see themselves and their role in the world. As a result, their interests and values can change quickly.
People with borderline personality disorder also tend to view things in extremes, such as all good or all bad. Their opinions of other people can also change quickly. An individual who is seen as a friend one day may be considered an enemy or traitor the next. These shifting feelings can lead to intense and unstable relationships.
Other signs or symptoms may include:
* Efforts to avoid real or imagined abandonment, such as rapidly initiating intimate (physical or emotional) relationships or cutting off communication with someone in anticipation of being abandoned
* A pattern of intense and unstable relationships with family, friends, and loved ones, often swinging from extreme closeness and love (idealization) to extreme dislike or anger (devaluation)
* Distorted and unstable self-image or sense of self
* Impulsive and often dangerous behaviors, such as spending sprees, unsafe sex, substance abuse, reckless driving, and binge eating. **Please note:** If these behaviors occur primarily during a period of elevated mood or energy, they may be signs of a mood disorder—not borderline personality disorder
* Self-harming behavior, such as cutting
* Recurring thoughts of suicidal behaviors or threats
* Intense and highly changeable moods, with each episode lasting from a few hours to a few days
* Chronic feelings of emptiness
* Inappropriate, intense anger or problems controlling anger
* Difficulty trusting, which is sometimes accompanied by irrational fear of other people’s intentions
* Feelings of dissociation, such as feeling cut off from oneself, seeing oneself from outside one’s body, or feelings of unreality
Not everyone with borderline personality disorder experiences every symptom. Some individuals experience only a few symptoms, while others have many. Symptoms can be triggered by seemingly ordinary events. For example, people with borderline personality disorder may become angry and distressed over minor separations from people to whom they feel close, such as traveling on business trips. The severity and frequency of symptoms and how long they last will vary depending on the individual and their illness.
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