When I was a teenager, thirty year olds just seemed ancient and unattractive, even like movie star good looks. Now I’m thirty and teenagers look like babies. Is there a name for this ? I know that obviously people can be attracted to anyone of any age, but in general, people seem to notice their own age group.
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Yeah, it’s natural for us to want to associate and identify with people like ourselves. That includes age, but also lots of other things. Remember when you were a teenager and you sought out people to hang with that were like you. Maybe you were a jock, and hung out with that group. Or maybe you were in a fringe group that was goth. Or whatever.
Age is part of that too. You might feel mature at 17, but a 40 year old would likely view you as immature. Conversely, you might think the 40 yo is conservative and a stick in the mud.
It probably varies. When I was in highschool and elementary school the only sort of guys that struck me as actively attractive were between 20-30. As a 26 year old, I think that’s still true for me. I’m pretty sure it’ll be true for me even when I’m 40.
I do think you can develop a crush on someone even if they don’t strike you as actively physically attractive though (which I’m pretty sure is how middle aged people get/stay attracted to other middle aged people), unless you’re incredibly vapid and superficial.
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To add onto what has been said, the longer you are around to people the more attractive they become to you as well, due to familiarity. In school, you tend to be around people your own age, so that is what your brain looks for.
That being said have you ever met some whom you thought wasn’t very attractive, but as you hang around them, they don’t no longer seem to be as unattractive, at work or school?
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